An update…progress is good?

Well, sorry I haven’t been too talkative as of late. There have been so many changes, revelations, and just plain lessons.

If you want to catch up, you can read my adventure

I don’t really know what to title this… an update,


What is put in front of us…an update


Thank You LORD…an update


Feeling more than blessed :) and update


I need prayers please

God blessed us with a wonderful place to stay while our home was being repaired then Hurricane Dorian blew threw, The blessing soon came to an end as when we returned to the condo it had been flooded, and we were without a place to stay.

A preacher had replaced the felon who originally started repairs to our home. The preacher assured us that for a price, $55,000.00 everything on the list of repairs would be done. We had to purchase the cabinets, the carpet, and flooring but everything from the studs up would be replaced, and all the windows, and flooring would be installed.

Well, Ecclesiasted later began to change his word.

He said things like, “your husband told me not to worry about this and that.” As if we didn’t need windows or flooring, or a kitchen.

I stood with him in my yard going over the list.

We had drawn out a full diagram of our home, and a diagram of all the rooms and listed everything that had to be done. He called and said everything on the the list is $55,000.00 we just had to buy the flooring and caninets but the installation of those things plus the repairs were included.

After 2 hours in my yard discussing this he told me, “I never looked at the list”

So, now I know where we stood.

The work he did was sub-par to put it nicely.

Crooked walls, paint pealing, bows in walls, nails popping threw, lines and mounds where the tape and puddy lines. I have pictures I will post. You can tell me if “I am just being picky” since that is what the preacher told me.

So, here we sit. Living in the building behind our house. Sleeping on a couch, and finishing the repairs ourselves.

The cleaning crew I had to hire because after a week of tryig to clean, since the workers didn’t clean one day while they were here(something Ecclesiates promised they would do) and running my HVAC system the WHOLE time, (while cutting wood inside, sanding, etc. ) so it had to be cleaned too, the cleaning crew told me they were so upset for me because of how BAD the work was done.

They said from my tub and sinks that are 16 years old how well I had taken care of our house, for these people, a man of God no less, destroyed our home. We have hard water, and they said mine were like brand new, as if they had never been used, so they KNEW I had always been maticulous with the things God provided us.

So, we will be installing the cabinets and flooring ourselves, even though we paid some one, a man of God as he so affectionately likes to refer to himself, to do the work. We will have to purchase the window, and install them ourselves, we will be sanding, mudding, and repainting every wall in our home, although as I said, we paid a man of God to do all this work for us.

The carpet we will have to pay someone else to do, even thought we have already paid, well, as I said a man of God to do this.

It has really caused me to doubt my judgment. God has always blessed me with being able to discern people. I have heard more than once that I have always been able to “see” right through people. Now I am doubting that.

I know God has a reason, a season, a lesson here for me to learn. I hope I learn it quickly as I am getting tired with this whole period in my life.

Praise the LORD for I know when I am weak, as I am now, He is strong. If not for knowing He is merciful, I don’t know what I would do.

I thank God for blessing everyone reading this.


Author: Margaret from soulfood101blog

Praying the world will read God's Word for themselves, and not rely on what someone else tells them His Word says or means.

63 thoughts on “An update…progress is good?”

  1. I did not want to like this post, but I do like that you are still looking to God in this awful situation. I hate it so much when people ,ugh, do all the things this faker did. No ‘man of God’ in my opinion. Sigh. I’m so sorry. But I agree that God is still able to bring good out of it SOMEHOW. :p I’m praying that one day you can look back and say, God taught us XXXX through that trial. Hugs and prayers!

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    1. Yes the LORD is amazing at taking the worst and turning it into the best. When I get a chance to do an update I will. We have been just so busy trying to get things done, and it is the last leg of the race. The LORD has certainly blessed us, even though I wasn’t the happiest of His children during some of these journey. Maybe this was the lesson. All I know is I stand in awe of all that He has made possible, things man said would take months and months, God had made happen in a much shorter period of time :) Thank You for your prayers, they are worth more than all the riches in the world. AND just a little bit ago read your post, and I might be a kitten too LOL :)

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    1. Your prayers are so valuable no riches could equal them. I am so blessed because no matter what the world says, or does, Our LORD is more powerful, and all things are possible with and by Him. So much has been accomplished since I typed that and it took me a few days to publish it but praise our Holy God, He has been getting things done that we were told would be weeks. Not to mention the things we had to do that we were told would take us weeks to accomplish. God is the beginning and end. He decides what will be done and when. And all He has helped us get done, in just a week is more than we were told would be able to be done in a month. I will post an update when I have the time to give it the true praise and glory that is deserving of all our Almighty Father.

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      1. Yes, Amen! I’m happy to hear that much has been accomplished since then! He’ll continue to bless and provide for you. Isn’t that the most wonderful thing? He is Sustainer and Provider after all. I’ll look forward to that blessed update.

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  2. This is so sad Margaret. I am just now sitting down and catching up with everyone today, well trying. We were up north, as you know there is no cable television, no phone, and no computer. We have our country breaks from technology and the stress that goes with it. I wish I could send some of that peace your way. I am back in the city now. If I am up north I can sometimes use our neighbors computers when we need to check on things.

    The most horrible thing about this story is that preacher. Why would he take advantage of anyone in the way he has?. A man of God would know in their heart that is wrong. Maybe the test here is that he isn’t actually a man of God, he is only a man for himself. There are lots of wolves in sheep’s clothing out there, especially right now. And they are good at finding the most vulnerable.

    I remember when we first bought our place up in the country and how my husband and I were looking forward to having our extended family be apart of that new adventure of ours with fixing it up. We were looking forward to campfire dinners, paint parties and holiday celebrations up there. Instead some of our own family members turned on us and got angry when they heard we purchased an old beat of home to fix up. It was so disheartening.

    They not only never helped us out in anyway but they tried to sabotage any effort we made to build our happiness. It was the strangest thing and it was emotionally painful. But we did not let them ruin what we had started.

    Half the stuff we ended up doing ourselves is not perfect but we know we had good and bad days rebuilding it ourselves. I cried some days and some days we laughed and laughed at our silly mistakes. What we did not know how to do, our neighbors (complete strangers) came to our aide and the other things we looked up in books and online, what I call YouTube university.

    I will keep you all in my prayers that things start turning out better for you and your family. There are lots of great people out there that are kind and helpful. When you least suspect it they always seem to turn up.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing that with me :) I know it will all work out. God has a plan, and He is always good to us. People will think, really? Did you read your own post but I know that everything has a purpose and God will reveal it all when it is His time to. I also know that He has this. His Word didn’t say every day will be perfect, and everything will always work out the way you want it. It does say He will provide, give us the strength to get through, and He loves us and wants what it best for us, AND to be thankful in all things, not just when things are going the way we want them to. I haven’t been the best at being thankful in all things but I am trying the best I can.

      We have always done 85% of everything to our home. Both of us have experience in fixing housing stuff. I guess it came from being poor hahaha When you don’t have the money to pay someone you have to learn how to fix things yourself. This time it was just such a huge undertaking, and since insurance provided the money, we felt it best for our age, and time to let the “professionals”. Handle it :) Lesson learned :)

      I am so sorry that you went through that with your family but it all turned out to be a blessing for you in the end, and that is the glory in it all :)

      I so appreciate your prayers as I have told everyone your prayers are worth more than all the riches in the world :)

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  3. How you can write this without seething with anger, I do not know. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through all of this, only to be so badly let down. Actually, no. Your trust has been abused, and as a consumer (of the repairs) you made a purchase and were ripped off, and there should be some recourse for that. Is he licensed, does he have his own business? Or was this just a man who said he’d do it, a bit like a hobby? How did you pay, by cheque? There will be lessons to take from all of this, and it’s surely a test of strength (which you always pass with flying colours, coming out the other side of it) but for now, I just can’t but think that there has to be something else that can be done. I hate to think of you being left in this awful situation and out of pocket because of it. Sending hugs and wishing for things to turn around, for some goodness to come to your way  ♥
    Caz xxxx

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    1. They both have businesses. I do have recourse. I have kept very detailed records of all of it. Right now I am just fighting one battle at a time. I want my house back to livable, so we are focusing on that. Not to mention there has been so much of this since the storm last year the courts are backed up just as much as the good contractors. The first guy is going to jail. He not only did this to me but has been doing this to countless people, as well as dealing drugs, being a felon, and the list goes on. I talked with our local sheriff and he was arrested the next day. There is a full investigation going on with him by the state. The preacher, on the other hand, he is another story. I think that because his dad was an excellent contractor(now retired) and he worked for him all his life, that his dad made it look easy. He is family with my best friend(and I can say that about one person, her) He is also related to the gentleman who poured the concrete for our building, and repaired my foundation after the storm(someone I have known my whole life too) I know his family and they are all great people. I never saw it coming when we hired him for these reasons. I know God will get us through this. The money that the insurance gave us seems to be like the loaves and the fishes. The more cost that comes up, the money is there. Would I have preferred that everything went smooth, and the way I wanted it to? Of course, but God never promised life would be smooth. His Word says there will be people who will despitefully use you, that some times things will be hard, that there will be times that are past our understanding. I have to have faith that He told me this and it is true, and I have to have faith that He said He will take care of all our needs, defend us, avenge us, and that this is true also. I appreciate all your love and well wishes Caz. You are a true blessing :) Much love back to you :)

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  4. Bless y’alls hearts.

    Man, y’all have been through the wringer haven’t you?

    And I prayed for y’all this morning about y’alls house situation.

    All I can do is keep praying sister.
    But I’m sorry that all of this is happening to y’all.

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    1. I thank God for hearing and answering our prayers Brother. Those prayers are all that keeps us on the path that God wants us to walk. Those prayers keep me from doing what the flesh is screaming, and keeps me in the line God wants me to walk. Those prayers are worth more than everything. God will get us through this, He always does. I nmght not know why but then again, I don’t need to do I? I am God’s child. I belong to Him. Nothing, and no one can snatch me from His Almighty hands, and He will use this for His Glory and good will. This I believe.

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    1. Us too Miriam. That didn’t include the purchasing of flooring, cabinets, countertops, and windows, and now the cost to have the flooring, countertops, and windows put in. We will do the cabinets. The insurance paid for it. By the grace of God it seems that no matter what cost keep coming up the insurance money is stretching. It is like the loaves and fishes, and it is miraculous.

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  5. Oh my gosh!! This is unbelievable. I would take the man of God to civil court to try and recoup some of your money. Just because you are a Christian doesn’t mean you have to put up with this nonsense. He has mistreated you all in my opinion. And if he is lying then maybe he should not be a pastor! And going to civil court is not sinful, does not go against Scriptures. It was made to protect people like you and me from being taken advantage of. Praying for you.

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    1. I appreciate your prayers they are the most valuable thing there is and I thank God for hearing and answering our prayers :) I think he would rather I take him to court than to pray for him. His bold attitude changed to that of a child in trouble when I told him I had turned him over to God. That I was praying for him, and had everyone I knew praying for him. You would have to have been here to see the change, I could see it, feel it. It was miraculous. I can’t even describe it. I still have the option of court. I keep meticulous records. Right now, I am going to focus on fixing the house, praying, and listening intently on what the LORD is trying to tell me, and see where the LORD leads me. I know He will make this right. He has always taken care of us, even if it didn’t seem like it at the time :) Thank you again for your prayers, they mean the world. AND your love, and concern for us. I could feel it, and it is a blessing :)

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  6. I feel bummed out and exhausted for you. Ugh. As I read through your post and the comments, I found myself thinking of times in my life where I was afraid and clung to the church or seemingly ‘god/good people’ for help, only to discover I was listening with fEAR instead of listening to my hEARt. Two different ears. I tend to listen with fear when I feel undeserving of good. (Undeserving of god).
    I’m wondering if that might be true for you? That maybe somewhere along the way in all of this, part of you questioned why the storms came and took so much away and, whether there was a little voice saying this worker wasn’t going to do a good job but because he claimed to be a man of god you thought you had to ignore your instincts? In which case the lesson might be simply that everything from god is truly good (including that little voice inside us), we just have to believe we deserve it. (I confess this is probably my own life long struggle.)
    Mags, you deserve good. You’re not picky. You’re not asking too much. Praying the way, his way, opens up for all the good he has for you to come flooding in. Much love sister.

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    1. I honestly don’t know E. The first guy hubby found was pure desperation as all the well known good contractors are backed up for years from hurricane florence. The first guy turned out to be a felon, trafficking, and manufacturing drugs. I didn’t find this out until I realized he had no idea how to fix a house but had already gutted our house. I had him removed, and he was arrested the next day on 4 felony charges. The preacher found us. My best friend(and I can say that about all of one person, her) is his cousin. The gentleman who poured the concrete for my building, did my foundation is also his cousin. My best friend is in Australia at the moment, so I didn’t even bother her with asking about her cousin the preacher. I know most all her family and they are all golden. The preachers dad is a well known contractor who built my best friends house and many subdivisions in our area. We figured the preacher being his son, and had worked for his dad all his life that we were in good hands. Him being “a man of God” was the icing on my cupcake. Hubby was handling the day to day of it all since for his whole career I had done all things that are house related. It was his gift to me hahaha :) But when hubby started voicing concerns, I started making appearances. Which turned into all day every day. I knew at that point, he was not the same stock as his dad, my best friend, or the gentleman who did my concrete and foundation or any of her other family that I know. At that point, it was let them finish what they were doing and finish the rest our selves. The house can’t sit for years for contractors to get caught up, and get to us. So, I honestly don’t know where, what, or when it all went wrong. I am sure I was coming from a place of fear. Everything that God had blessed us with was in shambles, I was fighting the blame game, biting my tongue, trying not to be resentful, trying to be trusting and loving and have faith. All the while asking the LORD to help me be the child He wants me to be an show me what to do. Not the person I revert to when I feel pushed against the wall. Leaving it to Him, and not trying to jump in and “help” Him because I know that messes everything up. I know something good will come out of this. One is the felon will be prosecuted for what he did to us, and has done to so many people not only in this county but in numerous ones. I filed the complaints, met with our local sheriff, I provided all the appropriate agencies with meticulous records and details. He will not be hurting others. I had no idea about the drug thing but he won’t be hurting anyone with that either. The preacher on the other hand, I was torn. I can certainly get him in trouble. Like I said I keep meticulous records of EVERYTHING but he was more worried about me praying for him, and others praying for him. His whole demeanor changed from this bold personality to that of a little child who had done something wrong, and was scared I was going to tell his parents. He didn’t want me mad with him. I told him I loved him, I wasn’t mad at all, and by the grace of God I wasn’t. I wasn’t happy about the situation but I wasn’t angry with him. If that makes sense. I truly knew my route to peace was to love him and mean it. Pray for him, and mean it. God would handle the rest. I know God has great things in store for us. He always blesses us, even if we don’t see it. I know there is a lesson here to learn for God is always teaching us something. I pray I learn it, apply it, and be the child God wants me to be.
      Much love right back at you sister :)

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      1. Whoa! Next level lessons here Mags. What a mess. As I read through your comment I made a mental diagram in my head. It kept pointing to one question: what happened to these men?
        And why are the sharp edges of their wounds causing you harm? Also, why do people have to wait so long for restoration? You’d think there’d be enough resources to go around that people wouldn’t have to stand in some metaphoric bread line to have basic needs met. He’s a mystery therefore I have no clue how he’s going to use you in all this but at the very least I hope you’re sleeping in a safe, comfortable, dry bed as soon as possible. ❤️

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      2. I know, it could give you a brain freeze if you think about people and the why’s of it all. The reason we are having a shortage is because it is a small coastal area. Not that many contractors to begin with. Then add a storm that damaged more than 80% of the homes here, and there is the rub. The crooks piled in. Lots of people got their money took and never saw the workers again. Many showed up, tore out everything to get money, then never showed back up. It has overwhelmed the courts here, the law enforcement, and sadly most of all the people that live here. I have been having to go to a laundromat and every one that is in there are there because they have no home with stories just like mine. I had to stop by my dentist office to drop off some paperwork this past week. Out of the 5 hygienists there 1 has workers that will be starting work on her house this week. The others are still waiting, or have been through situations like I listed above. My HVAC folks said they had workers show up, ripped out all the damage, and never came back. This is the case with so many people that it is astonishing. If you call contractors they tell you, you are on our list but we are backed up for years. People are being told roofing will be at least 2 years. Our one neighbour just got a roof last week. Lots of people are living in rv’s. There are many homes that are just boarded up, tarped roofs and the people are just living in hotels, with family, or have moved away. You can’t ride down a road where every other house has a tarp on the roof, trees still downed, half houses, work trailers with debris but no workers or there are being worked on. It is shocking to say the least.

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      3. Backed up for years? Unreal. It’s amazing how much disparity goes on and fails to be seen or addressed, huh? Makes me think of Katrina, how the very few and wealthy communities were drowned, dried out and rebuilt -new and improved!- in a matter of weeks while each successive socioeconomic rung of varies community ladders had to wait their budget’s turn. Systemic injustice. I’m so sorry Mags. I wish there was something I could do or say to fix it. It gives me a helpless feeling. Sending a virtual care package of hugs and love.

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      4. Yeah the area is so small. The population is only less than 50,000 people, and that includes the “vacation owners”. Not counting them we are about 18,000 “locals” Be sure that “millionaires lane” as it is called was repaired and back to normal within months. . They could afford to hire the contractors that they use back at their “home towns” to come here and repair their mansions. Those of us who don’t have that luxury are in line. The other issue is we are hours away from bigger communities. And those communities are small compared to what would be a big city. So, not cost effective for contractors in those areas to travel that far each day. Especially when their areas were hit just as bad. Who I feel the worst for are generational families whose homes are for sale for pennies of what they are worth because of their circumstances. It’s a developers dream. These once die hard never sell locals have no other choice. Insurance and fema are of no help to them and they will be forced out of land and homes that their parents, parents, parents have left to them. It’s a sad sight to see.

        It’s ok. God sees all and His rewards will far out way the struggles we are going through now. I appreciate your love and concern. It is a blessing :)

        God is blessing us(our situation) I will have an update soon.

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      5. You said it. Ugh. So frustrating. I’m excited to hear your update and tonight is the full hunters moon (I figure since god created the heavens and earth a little astrological knowledge is helpful) and this full moon is all about finding opportunity in the crisis. Let that light shine on all the answers. ;)

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      6. I agree so much. God created everything and the cycles of the moon, tides everything serves for His good will. I was admiring that moon tonight, although there is some cloud cover. What a beautiful masterpieces the Good LORD gives us. And the gifts they contain that we have yet to even comprehend. I watched your video. What a gift you are my friend.


  7. How awful! (((Margaret))) I’d be giving God an earful. He’s strong enough to handle it. The lesson might not be for you. God may be using you as a tool to help others and convict that man. I know, it isn’t really helpful. You still have to live with the mess and the disappointment. What most people don’t realize is that the most terrifying thing you can say is, “I’ve given you to God.” It’s also the most comforting, but only if they are right with God. Praying God lights even more your heart and mind and lightens your load.

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    1. Thank you so much Judy. Yes, it is a terrifying thing to be in the hands of the Almighty Living God. When I told him I had turned him over to God, he tried to pull some scripture on me, and miraculously God poured scriptures out of me like water. God gave me kindness, and the words, which in years past would not have been what would have happened. I am thankful for that. God will get us through this, He always does. Thank you also for your prayers. I have said this over and over but it is true, your prayers are worth everything :)

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      1. It took me a long time to realize that learning scripture was multifaceted. When someone tries to quote scripture for their own ends, I remind myself that the adversary is able to quote scripture, too. It’s awe-inspiring that God gave you what you needed; the Word of God is the sword of truth. It takes courage to wield that sword. Bless you. <3

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  8. That guy is no man of God. He film-flammed y’all and I am so angry. It likely won’t do much good since he is not with a business and apparently offered his ‘services’ out of the ‘goodness of his heart’ (seriously? does he have one??), but please consider writing a letter to the NC attorney general’s office. Include copies of any cancelled checks or agreements (maybe there aren’t any). From what I understand he’s not too good either. But at least you’ve told someone who is supposed to take care of us. Despite all this I am praying not only for you, for peace, strength and a few miracles, but also Ecclesiastes (wonder if that is even his real name) to grow a conscience. ❤️🌺💕

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    1. No thats not his name. I just called him that because he professed to be a preacher :) He very quickly stopped doing that once he realized that I knew what was going on and told him that I had turned him over to God. That I was praying for him. That I asked everyone I knew to pray for him. He tried to start giving me scriptures, and well, not that I am a scripture expert but the LORD poured them out of me until he was ashamed. I treated him the way the LORD said I should. I treated him with love. I might have been grumbling since he’s been gone about all that has to be done, and all the stuff that we will have to redo but God has gave me the strength to shine His light to this “preacher” who would despitefully use us :) I hope that doesn’t come across as proud, because thats not my intent. It amazes me. The old me would have, well it would not have been anything that was pleasing to God :) Thank you for your prayers they are worth more than everything :)

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  9. It is hard to be deceived by someone who professes to be Godly. We were once cheated by someone like that. I hope that life will begin to improve for you and your husband. My mother always told me life was tough. God bless you dear Margaret. I am praying for you.

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    1. Thank you so much Peggy. Yes, and to be told that they were doing me a favour, helping us out. Hahaha. Not one person who has been by sees it that way. All are as upset about the quality of work, especially since they know how well we had always taken care of what God has given us. It is what it is, God has a plan. I might not know what it is, I certainly don’t understand but then again I don’t have to understand it. God will get us there. He always does. :)

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      1. Life has a lot of ups and downs. It is hard to deal with. I know our eternal home will be so much better. My prayers and love to you Margaret.

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  10. Margaret, I am praying for you and your husband. God knows His children, and the wolves in sheep’s clothing.
    He knows your heart, and wants to hear it… all of it. HE wants to be your comfort.
    “I remembered God, and was troubled: I complained, and my spirit was overwhelmed. Selah.”
    – Psalm 77:3 AKJV

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    1. I wouldn’t say I am handling it admirably, although I appreciate your kind words of encouragement. I have grumbled and complained more than I have in decades. I have asked the LORD to help me with this because I know He has a reason for everything, even if it is beyond my understanding. I also know that all He ask is that I am thankful in ALL situations, even the ones that aren’t going my way. It’s easy to be be all “praise the LORD” when everything is all rainbows it is times like these that show our true faith. I have not been the example of “thankful” in ALL situations but maybe that is the lesson the LORD is trying to teach me. I am so thankful and appreciative for your prayers. They are worth more than all the riches in this world :) LORD, thank You for Jill. She is a true blessing :) and thank You for continuing to bless her :)

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    1. Your prayers are worth more than all the riches in the world. I was disappointed myself in the preacher, more so than the original felon. I will tell you as I have told him, I have turned him over to God. I pray for him, as I am suppose to do. It is a terrible thing to be in the hands of the Almighty God. He kept saying I needed to let him come back and fix everything. I couldn’t bring myself to do that considering the state he left our house in, He agreed. I pray he will learn from this as I have and will treat people the way God wants him to in the future :) He just wanted me to not be mad with him. I assured him that I have nothing but love for him as the LORD tells me I should. This seemed to trouble him more than I realized. I pray the LORD will teach him as much as He has taught me through all of this :)

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